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There may come a day or night when you and a partner decide to branch away from conventional sex and experiment with submission in bed. Acts that seem straightforward, like spanking, can become unenjoyable — and even dangerous — if done improperly. Power play — aka, the imbalanced relationship between a dominant and submissive partner — can bring up strong emotions as well, some of which you might not fully feel until hours or days later.
With that said, here are eight ways to begin experimenting with submission. It can take time to develop your submissive identity, Marin says, which is why playing a role can make it easier to come up with things to say and actions to take. Try out the dynamic of queen and servant, sergeant and private, or student and teacher. Once you feel comfortable with role playing, consider adding BDSM toys. This is where the classic handcuffs come into play literallyas well as blindfolds, cuffs, nipple clamps, ball gags, spreader bars, and paddles.
You can also try costumes that fit with your role plays. Bondage is a literal way to play around with control, Marin says. One of the easiest ways to change up the power dynamic is by playing around with language. During these play periods, have your partner come up with certain guidelines for your behavior, including things that are necessary and things that are forbidden.
Ask their permission for anything outside of those guidelines. Again, any type of role play or BDSM can bring up tough emotions. And you may be shocked by how you feel afterward.
You can stop at any time. Vanessa Marinsex therapist. This article was originally published on November 2, By Vanessa Marin and Carolyn Steber.
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