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Jump to. Experience has taught us that actions by adults can be more effective than expecting kids to protect themselves from sexual abuse. Still, we know that children also need accurate, age-appropriate information about child sexual abuse and confidence that adults they know will support them.
Clear communication is a cornerstone of effective prevention. Make sure other adults and older children understand the expectations kids will have of them and how their cooperation will help keep kids safe. When talking with kids about child sexual abuse, use examples and situations that make that reality clear.
If that ever happens, be sure to tell Mom or Dad or another adult you trust so that we can help that person learn the rules. Sometimes we unintentionally confuse kids by insisting they hug Grandma even when they don't want to, or by saying"Do whatever the babysitter tells you to do.
When children tell us they don't want to hug and kiss everyone at a family gathering, support them by helping them find another way to show respect to family members such as shaking hands, high fives, saying goodbye.
Model saying "no" and assure your children that their "no" will be respected. When talking with children about touch, remember that sexual touch can be very confusing. In a strictly physical sense, sexual touch can feel good and for a victim of sexual abuse, this can create more shame and confusion about the situation. Your body is yours and yours alone and you always have a right to say no to someone. Some people who sexually abuse children use tricks or bribes to keep kids from telling. The abusive person might promise a gift or allow a forbidden privilege; or they might tell the child that it is their fault or that no one will believe them, or that if the child tells anyone they will hurt their family or pet, etc.
Children need to know that there are other adults in whom they can confide. Sometimes children are afraid that they will "get in trouble" if they tell their parents about something that happened. This fear can be reinforced by the person who is harming them. Help your children to realize that there are other adults who can help them if they don't want to talk to Mom or Dad or if Mom or Dad is doing something that concerns them. Ask "If you don't feel comfortable talking to me about something, who else can you talk to?
By initiating conversations about healthy sexual boundaries, by answering questions accurately and respectfully, by handling disclosures calmly and reassuringly, you send the message that you are someone your child or other children you care about can talk to even when something has already happened. In more than 30 percent of child sexual abuse cases, is sexually harmed by someone under 18 years old, frequently by another child or adolescent who may not fully understand the impact of their actions. Most parents talk with their children about how to keep themselves safe from others who may sexually harm them.
We also need to talk to our children about why it is so important for them not to harm others. Children are born as healthy sexual beings. Just as they are curious about bugs, airplanes and animals, they will be curious about their bodies and other people's bodies. As parents, it is very helpful to be knowledgeable about healthy sexual development so we are able to tell the difference between expected behaviors and behaviors that may be cause for concern. When you find your child exploring his or her own body or playing "doctor" with another child, calmly acknowledge what you've seen and set clear expectations.
Now get dressed. And remember, even though it feels good to take our clothes off, we keep our clothes on when we're playing.
Teens need information not only about child sexual abuse but also about the laws of consent in their state. As our judicial system holds more teens responsible as adults, there are ificant and long-lasting for teens who engage in illegal sexual behaviors, even with other teens who are close in age. If she gets pregnant or her parents press charges, you could have to register as a sex offender for the rest of your life.
It is important for both of you to wait until you are older. We encourage you to print and share these tip sheets in your family and community. Our tip sheets are d under the Creative Commonswhich allows you to reproduce them as long as you follow these Guidelines. Please about permissions and to tell us how you plan to put our resources to work.
For more information and guidance, please visit our Online Help Center. Talk about touch When talking with children about touch, remember that sexual touch can be very confusing. Clarify the rules When you find your child exploring his or her own body or playing "doctor" with another child, calmly acknowledge what you've seen and set clear expectations.
Age of consent: special concerns for teens Teens need information not only about child sexual abuse but also about the laws of consent in their state. Hindman, Jan. Wurtele, Sandy and Feather Berkower. Share Prevention Tip Sheets in Your Community We encourage you to print and share these tip sheets in your family and community.Sex the park talk to me
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