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As you may know, compatibility in various aspects of your relationship is super important for couples to last long-term. For instance, having shared values and expectations for the future are two very basic things you and your partner need to see eye-to-eye on. Having great physical chemistry is another and some even make it a point to date people with compatible zodiac s.
But according to experts, there's one really important thing that tends to get overlooked. In case you might not have known, intellectual compatibility in relationships is just as important to have as anything else. This doesn't necessarily mean you both need to have the same IQ level. It simply means that you both have the capacity to indulge in deep conversations that become mutually interesting for the two of you. According to Ponaman, this is important to have because it will shed a light on how compatible you are in other areas of your relationship.
In other words, it's really hard to make a relationship last if you and your partner have nothing to talk about. So here are some s that you and your partner may not be as intellectually compatible, according to experts. This one may seem obvious, but sometimes you don't really notice it until you actually take a step back and reflect on your situation.
Have you ever felt like your partner turns every little mistake you make into a "teachable moment"? Are they always right and you're always wrong? Do they interrupt you a lot? Do they feel the need to correct you or over explain things? As McBain says, "This can cause the relationship to be skewed where one partner has more of a teacher role and one has more of a student role.
If this is starting to bother you, having an open conversation about how your partner is making you feel is important. Sometimes, they may not even realize that they're doing it. If you're the one who's taken on the "teacher" role, be mindful of your partner's reactions to things you say or do. You may be hurting them unintentionally. Intellectual compatabilty is crucial for a long, rewarding relationship, dating and relationship coach, Rosalind Sedacca, CLCtells Bustle. One major that this is a problem area in your relationship is boredom.
More often than not, boredom in your relationship is pretty easy to spot. According to Sedacca, bored partners will find themselves calling friends, family, and other people more often in order to get the stimulation they're lacking in their relationship.
If you know there's an intellectual difference in your relationship, always remember that you can't force your partner to change who they are. You can, however, find other factors that strengthen your relationship. Couples shouldn't feel the need to always one-up each other. Although being competitive can be a fun way to flirt with each other, if that's your thing, it shouldn't be happening all the time. If this is happening in your relationship, she says it's crucial for you to speak up early and let your partner know how you feel.
This is perfectly common at the beginning of your relationship. However, if you've been together for a while and you aren't having longer, more stimulating, and meaningful conversations about topics you care about, Backe says you may not be intellectually compatible. If this is the case, ask yourself why. Are you holding back on certain conversations so you won't cause conflict? Or do you feel like you really can't talk to your partner about "deeper" things? If it's the latter, you may have a bigger relationship issue that needs to be addressed.
If not, don't be afraid to test the waters on certain topics of conversation that interest you. For instance, one partner may come to the other looking for advice about a work situation they're involved in. But instead of continuing the conversation or offering up solid advice, the partner will divert the conversation and talk about their own issues that have nothing to do with the topic at hand. It's a frustrating situation to be in, especially if you really want to include your partner in your life.
If you feel this is the case for your relationship, let your partner know by kindly telling them that listening without interjecting is sometimes all you need to feel heard. If you're starting to feel resentment, jealousy, nervousness, or a lack of confidence around them, Relationship Coach, Andi LaBrunetells Bustle, those are s you may not be intellectually compatible.
This tends to happen when one partner has a habit of interrupting, over-explaining, or sometimes even putting their partner down. If this is the case, just know that your partner putting you down has nothing to do with you or your intelligence level.
Maybe you're just not that compatible. This can be very important in the long-term as one may feel belittled by their partner. While it is perfectly OK for a relationship to be purely physical, take note if you or your partner is trying to connect on a more emotional level, but instead things get diverted to the physical. For example, if your partner tries to entice you with physical acts when you want to have a deep conversation, relationship coach and expert, Jenna Ponaman, CPCtells Bustle, that's a to look out for.
According to her, this happens because they may not know how to be engaging with you on an intellectual level, so they'll rely on their strengths instead. If this is the case, ask them upfront about what they are looking for from the relationship to see if you are on the same. Usually people that are intellectually compatible tend to like the same things on an emotional basis," Ponaman says. So if you like country pop but your partner really enjoys heavy metal, chances are you have different opinions on intellectual matters, she says.
This may not apply to everyone. Some couples can work really well if their tastes in music are totally different. They just know how to respect each other's differences. As LaBrune says, in healthy relationships, no one should feel "belittled" by their partner in any way. If you and your partner are intellectually incompatible, does that mean your relationship won't work out long-term?
Not necessarily. For the most part, every couple will have their differences. It's what you do with those differences that really determines whether or not your relationship will be successful. If not, this can lead to arguments and resentment. But if you embrace your partner's different viewpoints or the way they think, you can easily overcome this. Instead, embrace your partner's differences. As McBain says, think of it as a way to grow as a person.
If you both understand the world at the same level and can discuss it together in similar way, she says, that means you are in an intellectually compatible relationship. By Kristine Fellizar.Intellectual stimulation needed
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